Holiday Greetings from Solo and Smart!

Dear Friends,

The holiday season can bring a mix of emotions for those of us aging solo. While many are surrounded by family and friends, some of us experience this time with more solitude. If this resonates with you, know that you are not alone. Together, let’s explore ways to make this season brighter, meaningful, and filled with comfort.

Make Plans – No Matter What

The key to a joyful holiday season is to plan ahead. Even if family gatherings are not in the picture, you can create your own traditions. Here are a few ideas:

• Celebrate Yourself: Buy a special book, wrap it up, and open it on Christmas morning. Pair it with your favorite breakfast and coffee for a cozy, indulgent start to the day.
• Plan a Special Meal: Whether you order a pre-made holiday feast or cook your favorite dishes, treat yourself to something delicious. Add a festive tablecloth, add flowers, light a candle, and enjoy the moment.
• Get Out and Explore: Visit museums, outdoor holiday markets, or tree displays in your area. Many of these outings can be done solo or with friends.

Connect in Meaningful Ways

While solitude can be restorative, connection is also important. Here are some ideas:

• Volunteer: Offer your time at a local church, shelter, or community center serving holiday meals. Helping others often fills our hearts in unexpected ways.
• Visit Friends Before the Holiday: If others are busy on the big day, plan get-togethers before or after. A coffee date or shared meal can be just as meaningful.
• Reach Out: Call relatives or reconnect with an old friend. A short, warm conversation can brighten the day for both of you.

Enjoy the Little Things

Even if you’re alone, create an environment that feels festive and comforting:

• Decorate with simple touches like a small tree, a wreath, or battery-operated candles.
• Watch your favorite Christmas movies or listen to holiday music that lifts your spirits.
• Embrace peace and solitude. Sometimes the quiet moments can be the most restorative.

Start a Journal for the New Year

As the year comes to a close, consider starting a journal to reflect, dream, and set intentions for the year ahead. Journaling is a powerful way to process emotions, explore your thoughts, and plan your future.

• Reflect on the Past Year: Write about your accomplishments, challenges, and lessons learned.
• Set Intentions: Use your journal to outline your hopes and goals for the upcoming year. These could include building connections, finding new hobbies, or prioritizing self-care.
• Create a Gratitude List: Start or end each entry with a list of things you’re grateful for—it’s a wonderful way to focus on the positive.

Your journal can be as simple or elaborate as you like. Use it as a tool to nurture your creativity, explore your inner world, and shape your path forward.

Allow Yourself Grace

If grief or loneliness hits, acknowledge those feelings—but don’t let them take over. Allow yourself time to reflect on what you cherish and focus on gratitude for the good in your life.

I’ve found delight in ordering a holiday meal that provides leftovers, taking time off to relax, and visiting the holiday markets in my area. These small traditions make my Christmas holidays feel warm and special, even when I’m spending them solo.

Your Holiday, Your Way

This season, give yourself permission to create a day that works for you. Lower expectations, embrace what brings you joy, and remember that peace, self-love, and connection are the greatest gifts of all.

Wishing you warmth, peace, and happiness this holiday season.

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and Happy Holidays!

Blessings to all,
Carol Marak
Founder, Solo and Smart